Seven Rules for Girlfriends

Right, I've just been given the Kreativ Blogger award by Lou at livewritedream. In keeping with tradition I have to write seven facts about myself before passing on the award to another deserved blogger.

So which seven facts?

Well, the other day during a clearout I stumbled upon some old love letters. One, from my first and only long-term relationship, stood out.

It was written by Lucy, who I dated for almost four years at university. Every month we'd send anniversary cards - it was all very cute. When we reached SEVEN months she scribed a lovely little note containing SEVEN promises - things she'd try to do less to keep our relationship healthy.

Even today, these SEVEN pledges reveal more about me and what I want from life and love than any list of inane facts.

Here's what Lucy wrote in full:

"Dear Bababoo,

Thanks for the best seven months ever. You already know how happy you've made me. I hope it will always be like this. You're so lovely to me even when I'm grumpy. I don't deserve you but I'm not giving you back.

As it's been seven months, I thought I'd think of seven things I must try harder NOT to do. So, from now on, I won't:

1/ Slag off The Smiths

2/ Hug you when you are asleep
3/ Tell you what to wear
4/ Talk while you are watching Alan Partridge
5/ Demand sex when a/ I've been out with the girls and you are sober b/ I've eaten tuna
6/ Mix my CDs/books/DVDs with yours
7/ Buy cheap baked beans

All my love,
Bababoo."

As it turned out, Lucy didn't stick to these promises - and neither has any girl since. Hence I'm single.

Anyway, I'd like to thank Lou for giving me the opportunity to share my 'Seven Rules for Girlfriends'. All that remains is to dish out the Kreativ Blogger award to one of my favourites. I want to give an honourary mention to Keren at wheniwasjoe - interesting content, brilliantly written. The award, though, goes to secretofficeconfessions. Heartwarming and hilarious.

26 COMMENTS:

Secretia said...

Could you be asking a lot of them?

Hunter said...

Interestingly, #1 would also be high on my list. Always been a fan...

Congratulations on the award!

Keren David said...

Hmmm..boundary issues. 5a) is a little surprising.

Keren David said...

Oh, and...Bababoo?????

Sparkless said...

You can't have sex sober?!!!! I can understand the tuna thing but there is such a thing as mouthwash and toothpaste. I thought men never turned down sex.

The Lioness said...

What does "Slag off The Smiths mean?"

And congratulations on the award!

plentymorefishoutofwater said...

Lioness, The Smiths are a British band - and Lucy was mean about them.
Keren and Spark - sex with a pissed-as-a-fart woman who has kebab breath and smudged make-up after a night out (and who you've slept with a million times) is not fun. I'd rather sort myself out.

Michael said...

That is quite funny, and a good way to express seven things. I imagine it would be a lot of tolerance for me and my partner when I next find someone.

Michael.
Do you hate it too?
"If you're going through Hell, keep going."

little miss angry said...

congratulations ;) and good choice in passing on the award.

totally get no. 6. hate that.

cheap baked beans though?? haha.

Jzt 4 me... said...

Lol..a really nice set of rules to stay Single...Keep Going...Do post such hilarious blogs often..It does give a smile....

Do also pass through by my blog at http://jzt4me.blogspot.com and let me know How it is to be silly...

Kate said...

Ha ha I love the Smiths rule although cheap baken beans.... can you really tell the difference??

Congrats on the award and thanks so much for the pass on :)

Kate xx

Poetry of Flesh said...

...what is so off-putting about being hugged while asleep? Do you lash out in some sort of Wolverine frenzy when touched while unconscious?

Innocent Owner Of Mad Cats said...

Seriously, who buys cheap baked beans anymore. LOL Congrats no a well deserved award and very good choice to give it too.

Emma Grace* said...

this is funny. lots of demands for a future girlfriend though. good luck!

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Giuliana said...

First of all, Congrats!!!! You deserve it! Secondly, jeez those 7 promises are kinda tough ones! What did you learn about yourself? You never mentioned it?

Another Face, said...

Really happy for secretofficeconfessions, she is on the funny side of a normal life,

And you deserve it as well, well done :).

Lol at your list too..I wonder what my first love letter said,

Charli

The London Loves said...

Those promises aren't tough! Who would buy any beans other than Heinz, for the sake of saving a measly seven pence? Why would anyone slag off the Smiths? Who WERE these people you were dating?? And just a hint, perhaps get better pet names next time, Bababoo. LL x

Ley said...

I followed Kate here and added you. Congrats!

Tina said...

I'm picturing the movie of your life. Hugh Grant? It'll all turn out well in the end!

theblueeyedboy said...

This possibly my favourite entry of yours. I'd agree with all of those points. Congrats on the award.

tattytiara said...

Ah yes, others can see us so clearly.

missykimmy said...

Congratulations. (: It demands a lot to be your girlfriend, but I'm sure someone out there won't see those as demands. I hope you meet her soon. But then what will you blog about? Great post as usual.

missykimmy.blogspot.com

JennyMac said...

What a list...#6 I dont mind however, #7 should be on everyone's promise list.

Bababoo? Pray tell the genesis of the nickname. :)

30-F-London said...

I'm with you on the tuna one...

Simone Grant said...

I'm thinking these are pretty low standards. You're not asking much. I'm with The London Loves - who were these people?

Ian said...

Great list! -Ian

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