The Proposal

So, the fling with my hairdresser ended in heartache - what's next?

Well, dear readers, one of you has decided to play cupid.

Regular commenter Bamberio sent me a mischievous email suggesting I date another blogger - namely Rapunzel over at talesfromthetower.

Her theory is that we're both single, writers and living in the north-west of England - a perfect match. And if love doesn't blossom, at least we'll get a good post out of it. What's the worst that can happen, says Bamberio.

Well for starters, this Rapunzel woman could take a photo of my small nipples and post it on her blog. Or sue for libel if I write something she doesn't like. Or she might have a massive birthmark on her face.

Anyway, turns out Bamberio has also emailed Rapunzel, who apparently isn't totally opposed to the idea.

So I'm putting it out there and seeing what you guys think. Should I try and arrange a date with Rapunzel? Or is this one fairytale that should remain untold?

From what I can decipher she's 33, lives in Manchester and just as hopeless at dating as me. Click here to visit her blog and investigate further.

50 comments:

Kate said...

This sounds like a great idea to me. It would be really interesting (and probably very amusing) to read the tale from both sides of the dating fench. I say go for it! What's the worst that can happen? Apart from the whole libel thing...

http://search-for-the-perfect10.blogspot.com

wideawakewesley said...

She's playing hard to get, don't waste your time. Besides she's from Manchester, nothing good ever comes out of there.

Keren David said...

Yes! She sounds great, she's articulate and funny and we'd love to read both sides of the story.

L. Cunningham said...

Do It! That's how i met my love. I was opposed to it at first, but decided to take my chances. We've been together for 9 months now!

Ash said...

Yeah, as friends... But to date seriously may confuse things, like you said if you or she posts something that you don't like, or that she don't like, or that is personal the relationship may turn awkward.

There's always a million reasons not to do something said...

hmm, after weighing your options (pics of your small nipples) I think you should go for it! Just don't leave her unattended with a camera & you should be fine :)

p.s. I thought of you when I did my most recent post because I was stuck in an awkward situation lol

Lifebeginsat30ty said...

Maybe sign a pre-date blogger agreement saying neither will sue based on the other's comments? ;)

Go for it!

Sparkless said...

I say go for it. I'm sure you'll get a good post or two out of it and us readers will have a good chuckle. The worst that could happen is you fall in love and live happily ever after.

ezradja said...

well, you two r very similar (at least the writing are) .. hmmm, liverpool and manchester ...? nah, i dont think this could works out ... sorry pass her IHMO.

Charlene said...

Absolutely. I think I may have actually suggested it on her blog a while back as well!

Hunter said...

That is complete crazy talk. I'm envisioning a series of back-and-forth trash talking blog posts. Which, might be fine for the blog, but for you?

Either way, good luck.

Lou said...

I've had a read of her blog and i think it seems like an okay idea. Though, since when has the fact that people lived in the same sort of area meant that you're a perfect match?! True enough, if it doesn't work out you can agree on a strict number of posts dedicated to your disastrous date.

But tread cautiously!

:)

Lexicon said...

I notice you've conveniently left out the timeline since Rapunzel blogged about this a month ago after you'd apparently blown her off for the hairdresser. If she's still talking to you, ask her out!

That Gal Kiki said...

My gut is saying no.

Honestly -- it doesn't matter what we think. What does YOUR gut tell you?

Romance should not be this much work.

In my opinion, anytime a romance is constructed (not 'just happen', but 'I will make this happen') the outcome is never good.

Keep living your fabulous life and the magic will happen the way it is supposed to - NOT because you try too hard. :)

Dater at Large said...

I was originally thinking yes, but now I'm leaning towards no. It could get really weird if one of you was interested and the other not and both of you remain bloggers.

Maybe you could agree on the blogging terms before hand? Like to only write about it if you both decide it's a no-go? Both sides of the date would be very interesting to read.

Aunt Juicebox said...

I'm thinking, don't do it. It might be fun to meet her as a friend, but for a date....well....you need more in common than just the fact that you are both single bloggers. It could be interesting to blog about, but it could also cause some hard feelings. And you tend to speak your mind about what you think of a woman on here, things some women may prefer to keep private, and it could be a disaster if you post the wrong thing. Or if she does.

TheUnwashedMass said...

I saw her mention this a while back n'all. You should definitely do it if the opportunity's still there. I look forward to reading the Rashomon-style multi-perspective date blogs from both of you.

Kelly said...

Definitely try it out. If you let your blog rule your dating life, there will definitely be problems in the future. If you date someone who doesn't have a blog, you'll probably have FB status issues. Everything is public, so you might as well go for it. Keep us posted!

Anonymous said...

Does pet shop girl still on the radar?

Kitty Moore said...

Yes - it would be bloggging dynamite!

Kitty x

Matthew said...

Manchester & Liverpool? Aren't you meant to want to attack each other - and not in a good way?

shabbyimpressions said...

A few thoughts on this:

1. All this seems like a cunning ploy to get more readers.

2. Sure, go meet her.

3. If you like this girl, what next? Long distance relationships suck.

Plentymorefishoutofwater said...

Oh Shabby, you old cynic! Most of my readers read Rapunzel's blog anyway and vice versa, so that doesn't stand up.

Rapunzel said...

Rapunzel here!

Bamberio suggested this to me last month and I actually debated it on a post..

http://tales-from-the-tower.blogspot.com/2009/12/too-many-bloggers.html

One side of me liked the idea cause I personally would love to read the male and female versions of the same date. The other side of me had ALL the same concerns that you have!

I now have a new concern...Fish what kind of a date do you think we would go on that would involve me seeing your nipples?! I'm not keen on swimming as an option for a first date...!

Bamberio said...

Cilla here... Now where's my hat..?!

I'm glad to see this might finally be happening. Come on plentymorefishoutofwater readers, where's your sense of adventure?

Rapunzel, maybe Mr Fish is planning on climbing up your tower and flashing you with his nipples. Is that a new 21st century wooing technique I wonder? Now there's a mental image...

Keren David said...

Rapunzel, we are relying on you to bring us the truth about Fish's nipples. Take a tape measure please.

Out of Sync said...

Haha great reply by Repunzel, it does seem quite concerning.

Without having a negative attitude in mind, ask yourself 'whats the worst that could happen?' =)

Go for it Fish! If not for yourself, at the very least so some good blogs will come out of it for us readers =P

Cortesean said...

do it!!!

Rupie Fowler said...

Bloody hell...apologies in advance to all for this comment of mine that is of blog-post proportions.

Fish - At first I thought : Once a Manc, never a Red ! Sorry Rapunzel, n'owt personal.

Rapunzel - I'm thinking maybe Fish used nipples as a code word ? Oo-err...!!

Ok, so then I thought I was being a tad harsh as a wee bit of Scouse always does a whole lot of good ! My thoughts are that if you go with the below FIVE things, you might do ok. Fish, please note...FIVE...one for every European cup we've won, ha, ha !

1) One must try everything once in life

2) Life's too short

3) Nothing ventured-nothing gained

4) Fortune favours the brave

5) As Del Boy says; "He (or she) who dares wins !

Not sure if this time next year you'll be 'miwwionairres', mind !

So many cliches, but how true are they ??

Anyway, what you could both maybe do is :

1) Deffo got on a date.

2) Deffo post a blog on it

3) Deffo have it pre-approved by each each other before posting. This will maintain mutual respect and won't disturb the inner circle of the 2 respective blogs.

4) If there's a wedding, then all your subscribers to be invited to the Stag/Hen AND of course Las wedding !

Amen...good luck, God bless !

secret agent woman said...

Maybe you guys could establish some ground rules about what you will and will not post.

Chrissy said...

I don't know, Fishy. I mean, she lives with a GUY. You were jealous about a Facebook post from a guy in hospice..

Cuddleslut said...

Yes, yes, yes. Go for it.

Me-Me King said...

What do you have to lose? Nothing. Go for it!!!

Kato said...

I say go for it and write about EVERY. LAST. DETAIL. On this blog.

Please.

Ca88andra said...

It could be fun! You won't know unless you try...

Little Sophie said...

I think it might be perfect.
Maybe two bloggers who can't get a second date are ment to be together.
And I bet it'll make for a hilarious story.
Besides, you have got nothing to lose, right.

http://littleprincesssophie.blogspot.com

Dating Diva said...

Ooh an older woman! Can you handle it? lol.

I say go for it--you certainly would have a lot to talk about.

RobGetaway said...

Yeah definitely go for it! found this on her blog

"Of course it wasn't all good. There were a few terrible things that happened. Like when I was measured and I discovered I'm an inch shorter than I thought and I've been kidding myself for years. "

Sounds like a certain fish we all now....

Thedailyspew said...

Go for it - whats the worst that can happen??

owais said...

Bloggers usually think on the same lines, share the same sense of humor and have a lot in common. That is the reason why its so easy to becomes friends on blogssphere....Go for it....she might be the one.....:D

Kate said...

Great idea!

Kate xx
http://secretofficeconfessions.blogspot.com/

Bendigo said...

Can't hurt to give it a shot (well can't hurt much)... Go For It...

Beautiful but Grumpy said...

I've seen it done before and it worked. Both sides of the story were fascinating. Good luck! Www.datinglondonrealstories.com

Bird on a Wire said...

Definitely do it, I mean, as Bamberio says "what's the worst that can happen"? She cut's her hair and you're stuck in a tower? Well, at least you'd have a good view....

www.thesinglemumlife.co.uk

Anonymous said...

If she's not opposed to it after reading your blog, then hells yeah!!!

birdykins said...

Do it!

Anonymous said...

Her 'Sausage Incident' did raise a few concerns about what could happen if you take her to a restaurant or get to '5th/6th base' in the future... ;-)

But besides that, and the fact she doesn't even have half a photo of herself on her blog, I say go for it and good luck!

Lainey. said...

Ach, just go for it.

However, I would try and view is as blogging fodder in the first instance and if you feel more - then bonus!

x

The Sphinx said...

Aw that's like a little romantic (comedy? or drama?) movie! I say go for it! Like they said, what have you really got to lose? You might find love, you might find a wonderful friend, or you might just have a memorable (whether good or bad, lol) one-time deal. Looking forward to hearing an update!

Kate said...

If you do go out on a date with Rapunzel then PLEASE don't talk about anything dodgy! I see that you have a history of talking to girls about their periods and stuff..

To help you out, I've compiled a list of ten topics of conversation you should avoid on a date. I think it might be worthwhile having a look to maximise your chances of a second date! ;-)

Kate x

http://search-for-the-perfect10.blogspot.com/2010/01/top-ten-topics-to-avoid-on-date.html